I spent most of my days outside the house then trying to fight the truth. I acted like nothing was happing. And that is when my sis said, Dana we have to tell someone about mom. And we did, we told my dad. We knew that was a bad mistake because we got taken from my mom and I got heart broken, I had to have her. My dad turned abusive and began to hit my sis and I. Then he stopped. He knew he was going to lose us if he didn't stop and we got kicked out of his mom's house. So we moved into a reasonable apartment. And that is when hell started.

My sis who was 13 or 14 took up weed. I was 11. She was out all night till 1:00 or 2:00 in the morning. My dad didn't notice because he would stay up till that time and not realize it. I was sick of just sitting back and doing nothing about it, so I went out with my sis every night to make sure she didn't get hurt. I went through running from the police to get booze. But I will swear on everything I love that I never tried weed. And I intend not to either.

Me and my sis couldn't live without our mom so we moved to be with her. That is where my sis got in trouble. She stayed out for days at a time. She had to go to rehab and she was a drunk too. She got her help and I lived with my mom and step-dad. He was a alcoholic and my mom left him. My grandfather came down and got my mom, sis, and I, and we headed up north. But my mom couldn't live without her husband, so she left us and I went and lived with my grandpa. He signed me over to my aunt and uncle. My sis went to live with my dad, who has gotten help and she is happy know.

And this is where I live now with my aunt and uncle. Everybody knows I don't smoke weed because my uncle and aunt are allergic to the smoke and because of what I have gone through. Well, I have to go because it is past midnight and I am tired.

Sincerely from a young victim,
Dana

I could really relate to your story about what you went through because of your parents drug addiction and with your father's instability and violence. I totally commend you for not going down the same road as your mom and sister with drugs. But remember, alcohol is a drug too, and addiction can be really sneaky and creep up on you when you think you're fine.

My step-father was a daily hard-core pot user and very violent. I wasn't as smart as you, and started stealing his stash when I was 14 years old. I also got into regular alcohol use at that time. My little brother was 7 years old at that time and we were really close. I know now that my drug use hurt him as much as my step-father's and my mom's. I was lucky that when I ran away from home, because of the violence (always directed at me), I was allowed to go live with my dad, even though my mom lied to the social workers about what was happening at home. Things were a lot better at my dad's, but I was already addicted. After getting involved with many more 'hard' drugs, I finally went to treatment when I turned 21 years old and have stayed clean and sober since (I'm now 38).

It has taken a long time, and some therapy, to come to peace with all that happened when I was a kid. The betrayal by my mom was the hardest to forgive, and she and I don't have a relationship right now based on the fact that she is now with an alcoholic and it was not good for my son.

What I really want to tell you though, is that even though I had some really hard, wrong things happen when I was young, I didn't let it ruin my life. I am a counselor now in a school for kids who have gone through a lot of the things you have and I love my job and have a beautiful 5 year old son who I am a very good mother to. I have incredible friends and a good relationship with my brother and dad. I am proof that our lives are what WE make them! You sound like you have a really good head on your shoulder's - Make Good Choices and enjoy life!

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